This Is ME!

I’m an extravert, a people lover, I’m obsessed with relationships.  I love deeply and unrelentingly.  I’m fiercely loyal. I love anything that sparkles. I love music and dance.  I can’t draw or paint.  To decorate I need Pinterest. I’m scared to death of sharks.  (Like after I saw Jaws, I couldn’t get in the tub for a year.) Most people would say I’m pretty funny.  Probably came from watching too much I Love Lucy when I was a kid.

I would call myself a Power Mother.  Meaning Mothering has been my passion and the thing I’ve dedicated my life to.  That doesn’t mean I’m a perfect Mother. Just that my whole heart and soul is dedicated to it.  I didn’t have that personally.  My Mother was not there for me.  The suffering that came, because of not having my Mother dedicated to me, has been the driving force behind my love of being the best Mother I can be.

I would say that my passion now is helping other women move through transition and trauma in their lives.  To sum up the last 10 years…picture me looking heavenward and saying…REALLY????  I’ve done that many times.

I hope my experiences and insight help you in some way.  I hope I can be a safe place for you.  I hope my writing and videos make you laugh, cry, but mostly I hope to help you.  Helps you feel hope and empowered.

Love You!

Instead of worrying about who loves you…who accepts you…who you’re number one to…why didn’t they love you?  How about spending your time thinking about ways to love you.

Things to change in order to love yourself.  Habits to create to love you better.  Set up your life, thoughts, habits to love yourself better.  When you love you…those who should be in your life..will be.  Those that aren’t in your life…aren’t suppose to be.  Love yourself and just let things be as they are.  

When you love you…you’ll have that peace to accept things for what they are.  You’ll not feel the need to try to control situations and other people.  Let go of looking to others to fulfill your needs.  You will fill you up.  Then and only then, will everything flow.

Pain Is In The Resisting Of What Is...

As the new year starts I wanted to remind myself of these thoughts I wrote awhile ago.

Pain is in the resisting of what is.  When I first read this I had a moment.  One of those moments that shifts your life.  As I thought about it, I realized how true it is, that the pain in any situation comes in the resisting of it.  When you accept what is, then the peace comes.  Stop resisting how things are and relax into acceptance.  After you do that, you feel the peace of letting go of trying to control a situation that you have no power to control.  

Accepting what is doesn’t mean you have to like it.  I think we get caught up in the thought that acceptance means we are ok or approve of how things are in the moment.  That isn’t true at all.  Accepting what is brings power and peace.  It means letting go of feeling responsible for, or in charge of others or their lives. It means changing your focus to yourself and what you have control over.  Sometimes it’s helpful to remind yourself of what you actually do control.  We all get confused about this at times.  

Acceptance means that we accept ourselves and the people in our lives, as we and they are.  It is only then, that we have the clarity to function and make decisions. Letting go of dreams is hard. The dreams we had for ourselves and for those we love.  But, we have to let go of old dreams to make room for new ones.  Letting go of our idea of what life was suppose to be like is hard work, but so necessary.  We have to have dreams and hopes for the future.  We might just need to shift the lens of what the future looks like.  The freedom lies in our ability to adapt and change. Don’t hold on so tight to what you thought things would be and miss all the amazing things that are.